Recently I was visited by my two friends after a long time. We know each other for 20 years, however it was only a matter of two years at the very beginning that bonded us together with cords that have kept us in touch & together through time and distance. When we met after 20 years none of us felt that 20 years have gone by and all the far away distances we had been too seemed unreal like it was a long movie.
All three of us have matured through life’s teaching and especially through experiences. The lessons that my two friends brought to the meeting of the minds was as though it was tailor made for me, so I could be touched and experience the presence of love and care. Now one of them is a doctor and other is a priest. We were all focused on being fully present for each other and were in the gap that present moment awareness unfolds Tabula Rasa Online Retreat. As our conversations flowed the doctor shared a particularly interesting life experience in an anecdotal way. He shared this story in regards to how deep questioning brings the person into the present moment and this presence brings about a different reality from what was being thought by the mind:
Harry I heal people and I see a lot of people who come to me for physical healing. Till date I have seen almost 150,000 people. Some people come back after a couple of days of medication and start off abruptly with “doc I am still the same as I was two days ago. There is no change in my condition. What is happening? Are you treating me OK?” he then went on to tell me how he deals with this. He said – I ask them “no change?” What were your symptoms when you walked in two days ago? What are the symptoms now? Not yesterday or two days ago? Please tell me the pain you face right now? Just this line of questioning invariably draws out a different response and with much more softness of tone. He says The patient comes up with – Doc I am better now than I was yesterday, however there is slight discomfort in the following areas. This he says – is where the mind comes in to the picture. The mind is usually caught up in having the same image & memory of pain suffered through the thoughts when the sickness occurred and it holds on to it tightly giving a false illusion of reality and making the pain seem larger than what it is. This Lesson in the Now was important for me to hear and to learn from. I come across clients who are clinging on to the past pain or past glory and bringing those memories to deal with challenges and pain created by the mind Now. When one is asked to just be still for a moment and observe what really is Now the pain usually disappears or lightens considerably… So here is the first lesson from my doctor friend on how mental projection of past discomfort continues if not seen objectively and the role of the coach is to ask the right questions and create the right presence to have a breakthrough.
He went to add this insight “After suffering for a very long time, physical or psychological, there comes a point in life when one gets so used to the pains or problems or diseases, that they start loving/liking them unknowingly/subconsciously and those become a part of their normal routine life. So even when one helps them out of it and relieves them of all their illness/worries, they do not want to accept it. That’s because they are still living in the past with their ailments/problems. This is where they need to be taught to live in this moment”
My Priest friend has been a mentor since the initial time I met him, he was already studying to be a priest when me met 20 years ago. At that time he planted a seed in me. With a lot of urging and mentoring he led me to the most beautiful gift I hold close to my heart. He introduced me to reading books so I could explore the world through those books and my active imagination. Since then I have read a lot, I have become a fast reader and books have been my most helpful teachers all along. One of the authors that I hold so dear to me Anthony Demello was a gift from him as a free book to read and grow. That spark lighted by Anthony Demello through the mentoring of my friend has been a guiding light to date. Now when I met him after so many years the tiny spark was a loving light full of lightness itself. I could sense the ease and lightness brought to me. His presence had become soft like a morning light which comes up in its gentleness to bring light to the sleeping and to dispel the darkness. There was no dogma attached to him, there was no religion driven approach or a drive to force any ideas, nor the many years of studying theology, philosophy had made him rigid. On the contrary I found a simple, silent witnessing life coming out from him. I have heard of how the people are touched in the presence of a guru. I have intellectually analyzed that this touching is in the form of subliminal vibrations that the guru is aligned to with life and in his presence the teacher and student both experience the vibration of Life. He has this spark in him. This is the light we all have and can be touched and touch others in infinite possibilities.
He pointed out that the seed that he had planted a long time ago I.e the habit of reading that he mentored me into, is now a tree bearing fruits and passing on the same joy to others. What I do now is giving back to the community the experience and wisdom that has been gathered through teachers like my priest friend.
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